7 Facts About Relationships You Need To Know Before Your Wedding
Celebrating your wedding and staying married is said to make people happier and more satisfied with their lives than those who remain single.
1. The younger you marry, the higher the chance you will divorce
A 2014 University of Pennsylvania study found that Americans who cohabit or marry when aged 18 years old, have a 60 percent divorce rate. Those who waited until 23 years of age to either wed or cohabit, had a divorce rate of approximately thirty percent.
Research literature explains the reason people who marry young are more likely to divorce is because they were not mature enough to pick appropriate partners.
2. The honeymoon phase lasts approximately a year
The honeymoon phase of a relationship with its high levels of passionate love, intense feelings of attraction and ecstasy, as well as an idealisation of your partner lasts approximately one year according to a 2005 study by the University of Pavia in Italy.
3. You are two different people
In the honeymoon phase the idealisation of your partner blurs the differences between you. It is important that we accept that we each have different ideas, different feelings, different interests. Accepting that you are two different people, with different priorities is a necessary stress in every relationship.
Studies also show that you are likely to find that you are different to who you thought you were or wanted to be due to the dynamics of living with someone who is different to you, this could be something like realising you are not as relaxed about untidiness as you thought you were.
4. Actively celebrate good news
Many studies have concluded that couples that actively celebrate good news have a higher rate of relationship well-being. There are generally four responses to good news, and the best response is the ‘active-constructive’ response.
An active-constructive response is enthusiastic support. If your partner has just been promoted then a response could be “That’s great, I knew you could do it, and you have worked hard to get it.”
A passive-constructive response would be understated support, something like a warm smile and a simple “That’s good news.”
In contrast, an active-destructive response would demean an event for example an accusation that promotion will mean they’ll be working longer hours. Or asking if they can handle the new job.
A passive-destructive response barely acknowledges good news, perhaps an “Oh, OK” or an “Oh, really”… before usually starting on a dull story about how their day has been.
5. Marriage equals friendship equals increased well-being
A 2014 National Bureau of Economic Research study found that marriage increases well-being. The study also found that those couples who also have a close friendship reported that their marriage was critical to their life satisfaction.
6. Age differences can lead to friction in marriage
A study of 3,000 recently married and recently divorced Americans found that age discrepancies correlate to friction in marriages. A one-year discrepancy in a couple’s ages, makes them 3 percent more likely to divorce when compared to their same-aged counterparts; a 5-year age difference, makes them 18 percent more likely to split up; and a 10-year difference makes them 39 percent more likely.
7. Share the chores
In the USA more than half the couples who responded said that a vital part of a successful marriage was taking responsibility for household chores. The recommended system is one where each individual specialises in the chores they are good at. This means that all jobs are done well and faster, saving you time across both jobs.